Peter Sarsgaard, the 53-year-old actor who’s basically the human equivalent of a warm cup of artisanal coffee, is letting us in on the secret to his 15-year marriage with Maggie Gyllenhaal. Yes, the Maggie Gyllenhaal — actress, director, and professional scene-stealer. Together, they’ve got two daughters, a thriving marriage, and probably some next-level snacks in their kitchen.
So, how do these two Hollywood darlings make it work? Spoiler: It’s not magic or some super-secret celebrity couple potion.
The “Dancing Turns” Philosophy
Peter told People their relationship success comes down to a simple rule: taking turns. No, not like sharing the last slice of pizza (though, honestly, that’s also important). They take turns letting each other shine at work.
“One person does their career dance while the other holds the metaphorical coat,” Peter explained. “Then, when it’s your turn, you bust a move.” Honestly, it sounds less like Hollywood advice and more like how you survive a crowded wedding dance floor without stepping on anyone’s toes.
Sacrifice, But Make It Chill
Peter admits that he used to think he’d work more if he could, but then realized something important: quality over quantity, baby! “If I worked constantly, I’d probably be making some meh choices,” he confessed. “And let’s be real, no one needs to see me in a questionable rom-com just because I was bored.”
Now, he balances work with family life, proving you can be an actor and a decent human being. Take notes, everyone.
Same Industry? Less Mystery
Peter also gave us a glimpse into why being married to another actor works for them. “I think it’d be tougher to be with someone who had a nine-to-five,” he mused. Translation: Maggie gets it when Peter spends three months pretending to be a tortured poet or something equally niche. No awkward “How was work?” convos when your spouse literally knows what a boom mic is.
A Family Affair on Set
Oh, and did we mention they recently teamed up on The Bride? Maggie wrote, directed, and produced the whole thing, and Peter acted in it, along with Maggie’s brother, Jake Gyllenhaal. Talk about keeping it in the family.
Peter couldn’t stop gushing about Maggie’s boss moves on set. “She’s leading hundreds of people, darting around like an action hero, and still managing to be my amazing wife,” he said, presumably while trying not to cry tears of pride.
No Cookie-Cutter Advice
And as for advice for the rest of us mere mortals? Peter says, “Every couple is as unique as every person.” Translation: Your relationship doesn’t have to look like theirs, but maybe don’t underestimate the power of taking turns and being each other’s biggest fan.
If this isn’t marriage goals, we don’t know what is. 🥂
